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denise stensland's avatar

your writing has been very helpful to me. thank you for being so brave and honest.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Thanks, Denise. I'm glad it impacted you positively.

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Carol's avatar

Wow. It makes me sad that you lost so much after your divorce in order to save yourself. Especially friendships and a relationship with your parents in a such a tough time. For myself, to deal with the loss of my son and my own cancer diagnosis, yoga helped me stay connected to myself and my friendships and family kept me going. After my son passed away, I did lose friends but the important ones stayed. And now, thru my own journey, I connected to a new community of fellow cancer patients. And I can’t forget my puppies with their unconditional love and antics!

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

I think there are defining moments that happen and make things clear. My relationship with my parents had been difficult for years, so when my mother shunned me and supported my ex, there was no going back for me. I'm happy you are seeing with new eyes and that you are doing well.

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Corie Feiner's avatar

I came across it when I was studying compassionate communication and realized that the person with whom I needed to be the most compassionate was myself -

https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/

Here is a link. Sending love and light!

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Corie Feiner's avatar

Thank you for sharing. Yoga, meditation, and wiring all are tool I use to stay connected - or reconnect when I loose my way. Also, bike rides where I talk with myself, telling my truth to my husband, and practicing Tara Brach’s RAIN all help.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Love your additions to the list, Corie. I'll have to check out RAIN since that's new to me.

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Michele Maize's avatar

Same here, Ilona! I am not sure where I would be without writing and yoga!!

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