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Dan Ehrenkrantz's avatar

A conditioned "yes" to unconditional positive regard. :-) I'm guessing your blame (and perhaps anger) serves you in some way. So before jumping to unconditional positive regard for the one who caused pain to those you love, make sure to honor and respect what is arising within you. You, including your anger and blame, also get to be the object of your unconditional positive regard.

I hope everyone is doing okay...

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Yes, everyone is on the mend. Thank you for asking and your thoughtful comment. Yes, it's a process to get there for sure. I like how you frame that anger and blame, some very human emotions, get the unconditional positive regard as well. Great point!

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Lazarus NJ's avatar

Ok, Ok, I'll try to stop with the "yoga money" cracks. Who knew they'd get old after only 94 times! :)

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

❤️

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Julie Gaeta's avatar

A beautiful message, with so much potential for good. So sorry about the accident. ❤️

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Thanks, Julie. Wishing you and your family a beautiful day today.

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Christina Waggaman's avatar

Love this! And thanks for the shout-out. :) As someone critical of wellness but very still much invested in yoga, being real about how hard it is to sometimes live by yogic philosophy is so much more valuable to students than pretending it's easy. Thanks for your honesty and your beautiful wisdom!

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Thanks, Christina. I appreciate you and your newsletter so much. I hope Norway recognizes you as a "real" person soon.

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Ana's avatar

I'm going to remember that phrase when I interact with my residents

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Glad it resonates with you, Ana. I'm sure your clients will appreciate you even more.

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