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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

A lifelong friend used a phrase in a conversation we were having years ago that I've adopted for myself...and the older I get, the more I use it..."People! That's where I draw the line!"

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Cheers to drawing those lines with a Sharpie marker! Thanks for sharing the wisdom of the sages.

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Ilene Winn-Lederer's avatar

At 20+ years past menopause, I still remember my big ear-to-ear grin when I walk past the sanitary pad/tampon display at the supermarket. “Nope, don’t need those anymore!”

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

I was really happy about that, too. Took forever until I got to that point though. I was 54.

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Ilene Winn-Lederer's avatar

55 for me!

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Paulette Bodeman's avatar

While I'm past past this age, the sentiment remains true. I absolutely love the 'We Do Not Care Club' and how she has created a movement. Fabulous.

When I turned 50, I began saying, 'I'm 50 and I'm frickin' free!'

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Veronica (Niki) Fielding's avatar

Melanie has struck gold with the "We Do Not Care" Club. She's brilliant and her fans are absolutely in love with what she's doing--me included. Great post, Ilona.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

I appreciate you turning me on to her, Niki!

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Cécile's avatar

This was thorouglhy uplifting. Thank you, needed that and I now know that I'm in the most excellent company!

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

We are in this together, Cécile! Glad you enjoyed reading.

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Cindy Hansen's avatar

At 66, I only have a few fucks left to give so I save them for what really matters. The rest of them are on their own! I'm a card-carrying member of the WDNCC.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Glad to have found a fellow WDNCC member. Let’s get this party started!

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Liz Medford - lizexplores.com's avatar

I love it! This explains so much of how I have been feeling lately at 45. 😂

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Welcome to the club, Liz!

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Lorraine Evanoff's avatar

She's on TikTok too!!

"On Instagram, Melani Sanders (@justbeingmelani) has turned the “We Do Not Care Club” into a viral sanctuary for peri- and menopausal women who are done with unnecessary drama, restrictive beauty rules, and other people’s expectations.

Check her out, and oh, please don’t skip the comments. They are pure gold"

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Merci beaucoup, Lorraine. Glad to be linked to all of you, dear ladies.

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Jan Hempstead, RN's avatar

I have been feisty and a member of WDNC since my 20’s. I have actually mellowed in my 60’s. I think it’s mostly because I don’t want to waste energy on people and things that no longer matter to me. My daughter in her 40’s is a card carrying member of the WDNC club. Wonder where she got that from? 😉

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Glad to hear you raised a daughter who embraces the WDNCC community. I’m sure the Apple did not fall far from the tree.

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Jill CampbellMason's avatar

Yes! Oui! Si! Certainly!

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Absolutement!

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Sam Messersmith's avatar

Gosh I just love this. I just don't care and it's so freeing!

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

Glad to hear you’re part of the club, Sam!

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Michelle Lindblom's avatar

I’m there sister. I give zero f&&ks about much. I love Melani and have seen her on IG. Carry on with as much spice as needed! I know I am.

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Ilona Goanos's avatar

It’s great that Melani is uniting us across social media platforms. It’s gaining momentum as it spreads.

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SheilaE's avatar

I thoroughly enjoy her reels as well!!!

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Lazarus NJ's avatar

Thanks for this enlightening piece, now I know the chemistry behind your behavior! Of course, it's all good...

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