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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

I so relate to this and it took me years to figure out why it was harder to make new friendships and why my lifelong friends seemed to be losing interest in maintaining our friendship. I moved to a new town a couple of years ago and I began attending some groups for women in town. That is fun and makes me feel less lonely but one day I met a woman at the hairdresser's also new to the area We bonded and have spent lots of time together already. Also, I have made it a point to get to know neighbors and this has helped as well...but it's not easy.

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Kirie Pedersen's avatar

I'm lucky to live in the place I was born, so I've been able to maintain a lifelong friendship with one of my besties from high school, made even deeper after she was diagnosed with cancer. As my former husband had cancer and all our friends vanished, I vowed to be there for my friend. I called and asked her what she'd like. We live about four hours apart. She wanted to come to my place and "stare at the water" after her initial surgery, and subsequently, we scheduled weekly calls through the year of cancer treatments. We like being in deep touch so much we're still doing the weekly calls! I'm also lucky to be in recovery from addiction/alcoholism, so I started a support group for women in a charming town about an hour from my house. People in recovery can have sort of an instant bond, but this has turned out to be amazing. I'd say almost every woman there has become a new friend. I'm so grateful!

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